How to Say No Without Feeling Guilty: And Say Yes to More Time, and What Matters Most to You Paperback – February 13, 2001

This book gives you some solid insight into why we can't say no. Very logical and human, not a lot of clinical info. that we really don't need. I would advise reading it, very thought provoking.

when my kids got to a certain age and I started sounding like my parents that I never wanted to act like, this was a great book to help open up and begin to understand some of the hurt I felt as a child and begin to find my own rules to raising them

Love this little book. It may not have an example of every situation you'll ever face (which is not really possible to deliver in real world), but includes most of the types of situations. It may be a little simplistic, but "saying no" should be simple. In the right situation, you should just be able to do it and not feel bad about it. I love seeing the sample phrases I can adapt and use as needed.I am currently dealing with a friend who asked to crash on our couch once, and then over the course of the year it turned into a habit, where every time she's in the area, she'll just come and stay over. It got to the point of her being over every week. She even showed up one time without hearing back from me at all. She just assumed it was ok, because she texted me and said she was coming. Every time I'd give her a reason why it won't work, she'd come up with the "solution" to fix the problem. And I was too flabbergasted to object. Considering that we are a young family with a toddler and a baby on the way living in a tiny one bedroom place, it's not an arrangement we've been comfortable with. At the same time, for some unknown reason, both myself and my husband have been having the hardest time saying no. Reading this book has helped me tremendously with validating my feelings about the situation and I am now more prepared. I now have a plan and a speech prepared and was able to successfully turn her down the other night :)The ability to say no can truly free you form unnecessary headache, and I appreciate the tool this book is to help me with it.

Gives you practical ways to deal with any situation that could possibly pop up.

Given to a friend

If you know you need to say no, but don't know how, this is the book for you. It literally gives you the words to string together to say no without appearing mean and hateful. Also there is a chapter on handling high maintenance people in your life.But, if you don't know you should say no, this book won't help. If you know you should say no but don't want to, again there is no help. This book won't give you a backbone.

This book taught me so much. Even though I loved the book, I now learned that I do not have to feel obligated to leave a review. I am busy with so many things and even though I love this book and recommend it, I still will not be leaving a review.

A good reminder of how to set boundries and stay focused on your goals. It also talks about saying yes to helping people and leaving time in your schedule to do that by not saying yes to everything.