Why Women Talk and Men Walk: How to Improve Your Relationship Without Discussing It Paperback – 1 Mar. 2007

The authors explain fear-shame dynamic of a woman-male relationship so well. For example, if you were to ask a woman what she would be most scared of if she was to become homeless the woman is likely say: I would be scared someone hurting me, I won't be able to have a bath ect. If someone would pose the same question to a man, the answer is likely to be: I am scared people, especially other men, would look down at me. For women, it's a fear of isolation and deprivation, for men it's a shame of not being able to protect and provide. I observed this fear-shame dynamic in my marriage and in my friend's relationships too. The book is full of amazing observations on this topic with some easy and practical steps of overcoming them. The best book on relationships by a great margin, in my opinion.

I found this book because I was looking for a kindle edition of the book 'How to Mend your marriage.......' by the same authors. That wasn't available on kindle so I bought this one as I wanted to read it sooner rather than later & I liked the reviews. I also ordered the previously mentioned book in paperback. The book is excellent. I learnt a lot about my relationship, my behaviours & the reasoning behind them but I also felt that if my husband read it he would also feel the same. He would feel, as I did, that someone understood our own perspectives perfectly. The advice for change is relatively simple too but that doesn't mean that it is easy. Habitual thinking & behaviour takes a bit of work & effort but it does seem 'doable'.My only slight irritation is that I have just started to read the other book previously mentioned & it's exactly the same book.....word for word. I can't see anywhere that says it's been re titled & if I'd known that I wouldn't have bothered ordering both of them. I do feel the publishers should have made this known.

The supplied questionnaires also give a chance to reflect on certain aspects of your relationship (and your approaches) as well as to involve your partner to participate (if you are lucky). Otherwise a pleasant, useful and entertaining reading.

I have read a lot of relationship books, this one is by far the best.I have learnt so much.I come across this book when my husband was stonewalling me after I had called him out for doing something that upset me.This book was very informative and I was able to stop that stonewalling because I now understand why he felt the need to do this.

I love love love this book. I wish all of its lessons were taught to adolescent boys and girls and half of the misunderstandings between the sexes would be avoided and maybe the divorce rate would fall? I have read and re-read it several times and every time I learn something new or get a different perspective on relationships. Great resource when times are challenging as they often are in life.

The description of this book is very misleading as is the blurb on the back of the book. Nowhere does it say that this book really is intended for married couples only or at least those living together. I've read this book from cover to cover and found most of it useless as it talks about techniques that I can not apply (e.g. hugging your partner 6 x a day for 6 seconds) because I do not live with them nor see them often enough due to our busy schedules. Less important but perhaps worth mentioning is that I also found the book very dry.On a positive note this book is co-authored by a man and a woman which is useful as it gives more credibility to the content, in addition despite it being mostly useless for me, it probably is worth reading by those who are living together or married. Furthermore, the first sections of the book discuss why women act like women and men act like men and this was somewhat informative for me. Hence why overall I have given the book 3 stars in the end. It would probably receive 4 (minus one for the dryness) if the blurb had clearly stated what market this book would be useful for.Throughout most of the book I said to myself 'I am returning this book, it's of no use to me'. But in the end I have decided to hold on to it and put it on a back shelf for a day when I am living with a partner or married, because then it might actually come in handy.

I've read it through once and found it heavy-going, so I'm reading it for the second time and am about two-thirds the way through it.There's lots of repetition about what women's fears are and what men's fears are. Lots of 'psychology' to wade through - and they repeat that a lot too in every chapter - it gets very boring and tedious. There are some helpful bits in it, but there's a lot of other (repetitive) stuff to wade through before you get to that.Personally, I find "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus" more direct and helpful with a lot more suggestions for thing you can do - and without masses of repetition.After reading it a second time, my view is still the same.

Really pleased makes sense .makes me stop and think instead of getting upset and taking things personally. Although it does make me angry until I take stock and think here we go again ,think I will always need to use this book as a reminder of how we are so different.