The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives
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" Instead of trusting kids with choices . . . many parents insist on micromanaging everything from homework to friendships. For these parents, Stixrud and Johnson have a simple message: Stop. " -- NPR "This humane, thoughtful book turns the latest brain science into valuable practical advice for parents." --Paul Tough, New York Times bestselling author of How Children Succeed A few years ago, Bill Stixrud and Ned Johnson started noticing the same problem from different angles: Even high-performing kids were coming to them acutely stressed and lacking motivation. Many complained they had no control over their lives. Some stumbled in high school or hit college and unraveled. Bill is a clinical neuropsychologist who helps kids gripped by anxiety or struggling to learn. Ned is a motivational coach who runs an elite tutoring service. Together they discovered that the best antidote to stress is to give kids more of a sense of control over their lives. But this doesn't mean giving up your authority as a parent. In this groundbreaking book they reveal how you can actively help your child to sculpt a brain that is resilient, and ready to take on new challenges. From the authors of Seven Principles for Raising a Self-Driven Child and What Do You Say , The Self-Driven Child offers a combination of cutting-edge brain science, the latest discoveries in behavioral therapy, and case studies drawn from the thousands of kids and teens Bill and Ned have helped over the years to teach you how to set your child on the real road to success. As parents, we can only drive our kids so far. At some point, they will have to take the wheel and map out their own path. But there is a lot you can do before then to help them tackle the road ahead with resilience and imagination.
| Dimensions | 14.02 x 2.08 x 21.36 cm |
| Edition | Reprint |
| Isbn 10 | 0735222525 |
| Isbn 13 | 978-0735222526 |
| Item Weight | 1.05 kg |
| Language | English |
| Print Length | 384 pages |
| Publication Date | 12 Feb. 2019 |
| Publisher | Penguin Life |
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Every parent and teacher should read this!
So, my relationship with my 11 year was getting strained. The more I pushed, the worse it got. Not doing homework, being late for school, bedroom a complete mess. I was starting to get shouty and frustrated. I was thinking, I don’t want it to be like this. I don’t want to be that parent that oversees everything my child does. I don’t want to manage her. I don’t want her to blame me when things go wrong for her. I want her to take control, steer her own way through life. Sure I want her to know I’m always here for her and will help in anyway I can.This book fixed everything! She thinks I am the best Mum ever and now she is 12…the dreaded pre-teen and she thinks I’m awesome. But I do less, a lot less, I stress less, I worry less, I trust her more, she tidies her room (more than before anyway), she gets her homework done. She gets herself to school on time. She even takes herself to bed when she’s tired.It isn’t what you do, it’s the way you do it. Little changes, rewording things that help them realise their life is theirs, it’s all down to them. Let them make mistakes, it’s ok because they will learn from them. I don’t want to be the boss of my kids, I want them to be their own boss and this magical book takes you through lots of scenarios, explains how the brain works and gives you answers to your parenting tactics along the way!I highly recommend this book and frequently do when mums are explaining problems they have with their kids. Buy it, read it, refer back to it. When things start going wrong again, think back to the book and fix it with all this amazing knowledge!
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Self-driven child
A great book for any parent who wants to support their child to be the best they can be.
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My wife has been lying.
My wife is an awesome parent and I recently found her reading this book. I thought she was a natural. Taking in her calm, loving stride. But alas, no. She has been reading this all along. Gonna read this on the sly and become an awesome dad then win!! Hahahaha. Twill be my day!!
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Great read
Truly amazing book that every parent needs to read. Changed my perspective on making decisions for my child /letting him decide!
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Understanding your child better
The book is extremely informative and provided much food for thought
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Neuroscience and common sense combined
This book should be given out free with a pack of pampers as new parents leave the maternity ward. In a world where parents over-monitor, over-parent and seem to manage their child’s time, this book uses the latest studies in behaviour, neuroscience and education to show how important it is to give children more control over their decisions and their lives.Anxiety is plaguing children at younger ages and in greater numbers than ever before. It saps their life-force and decimates their original potential.We live, arguably, in the least dangerous time in history, yet fear and anxiety are rife among children and young adults. Will I fail the test? Will I be good enough to pass? Can I get to the University I want? Am I missing out? Questions plague them - quite literally. If we are to cure this anxiety epidemic perhaps it’s time to look closer to home.This book helps to identify the demons and triggers and provides practical advice, alongside the latest neurological research, to help raise healthy adults who understand that they have control over their lives.
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Misleading title
I found the book title misleading. The book itself isn’t bad, and if it had been called “Healthy Parenting” I probably would have rated it four or five stars (but wouldn’t have bought it as I have already read plenty of these). But guess which title sells better?The book talked at length about kids who are depressed, anxious, stressed etc, or parents who are too controlling etc, but not much on how to help ORDINARY kids who don’t have big issues but just too plain lazy to work hard. It’s a bit like seeking advice because kids won’t eat their vegetables, but the advice given is based on kids who are bulimic or obese. But perhaps this is to be expected considering the authors’ professional background - they deal with troubled kids.I think there are many ORDINARY parents out there who are not overly controlling or pushy, but are frustrated that their kids are not making the most of their potential. The book title is very enticing to these parents. But sadly if they have already done some research on the subject of motivation and parenting, they won’t gain much new insight from this book.
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As a parent, are you looking to be judged by yet another stranger?
As a parent, are you looking to be judged by yet another stranger who doesn't know you, your child, your family, or your culture, and tell you that you're doing it all wrong? No? If you're not interested to find out which made up stereotype you fit in I'd suggest you save your money
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Your kid will appreciate you reading it
A must-have for parents with adolescences
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Inutile
Un ramassis de blabla inutile, une pure perte de temps et d’argent.
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Excellent read
Worth buying
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Genial
Genial
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Must Read If you have toddler at home
Must read book for who are raising young kids
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