All the Rules: Time-Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right

Just finished reading this book (yes i don't have a saturday date right now, but have a guy texting me about liking another ex-girl mate of mine even though this guy told me 2 months ago he'd liked me for the 3 years we were uni students bleh bleh..usual drama! haha!). I guess this book has helped empower me and really given me alot of hope and reassurance that it's about being independent, sassy and as they say "a creature like no other!". I admit some of it can be hard to implement but i'm going to keep re-reading it and reminding myself IT WORKS and to keep following it! I have already noticed by holding back a little, the more certain men seem to pursue/call/text. It's fantastic! It's annoying if you feel you break a rule but we get better with practise, and the great thing is at least now we can see where the rule-breaking is happening, whereas alot of women out there are still in denial! We are an intelligent bunch of rules girls ;). I really look forward to using this and seeing where it leads now, and even more so in the new year! Some of what you read in the book you relate to so much and think "omg that sounds like me", or "wow, my best boy mate is like that!" and it gives great advice how to act rationally rather than emotionally to ensure we get that ring on our finger! All in all, it's girly, insightful and very empowering :) I already can see the men that are worth it now and the ones that clearly aren't!! FANTASTIC- BUY IT!! It's no-nonsense girl spice which we all need (seriously us girls can be too naive at times!).

THIS BOOK NEEDS TO BE GIVEN TO EVERY GIRL WHO IS ABOUT TO GO TO UNIVERSITY. Soooo useful. My cousin used it and is now married to the man of her dreams. No joke. tbh it's been about 3 years since I last read it but I think its time I read it again. It basically shows you how to hold your own in a relationship. Also how to behave and act in such a way that the guy sees the best you. ITs about giving men what they need, not what they want i.e. they may WANT to sleep with you but they NEED to work for it; and after they have worked for it, they will value you more than if you took a chance. Thats a very basic and obvious example but the book, I found, answered a lot of romances questions. "why isn't he calling me.. why does he do x or y.. why can't i meet the right guy" etc I think if you're looking to settle down and not jump from one guy to the next this book shows you how to conduct yourself in such a way that shows off your best assets! (ha these people should pay me for these reviews!!)

When a colleague of mine told me about this book and the outcome it had for her I just thought "Yeah Right". But as I had just got out of a long term relationship and had spare time on my hands and also with the constant torment of my friend in my ear about it I gave in. I went on Amazon and ordered a copy. I wanted to read it to see what all the fuss was about. In all fairness to the book it does make a lot of sense and is quiet an interesting book to read. It does make you think about your own dating techniques and you do question them. At the time I was more interested in having fun with my friends and enjoying life but did notice that if I was out and about and spoke to guys it was a different me. I had more confidence in myself. Whether this was down to actually getting ME back from a really bad relationship or the book. I like to think a bit of both. My opinion of the whole dating scene and communication with guys changed and...................................... Here I am today in a wonderful relationship. Getting married next year and have just had my beautiful little girl. OK I didn't follow the rules EXACTLY lol Even if this book gives us girls a bit more confidence and educates us on the whole dating scene well why not give it a try. What exactly have you got to loose?????? xx

I have enjoyed every edition of this book. Take the advice with a pinch of salt and a good sense of humour. The book basically tells you to put yourself first, not to fall for just any guy simple because he is wealthy or good looking, that you should be confident no matter what and always try to better yourself. The book prioritises dating safely, having respect for yourself and to never lower yourself or your behaviour and standards to catch a man. In fact it highlights that just by being the best version of yourself you won't need to be looking Mr right will come along and treat you as you deserve. I was 15 when I bought this book for myself. I still use it. No I'm not married. But I also don't follow the rules to a T. It's a good laugh and a must read post break up. Stops you crawling back to any slugs!

This is NOT a book to manipulate men; but it is to be used as a guideline of 'female etiquette' as a life-style choice, not just until you get him down the aisle and then turn into the she-beast you really are -lol. I say this as a former she-beast of bitchiness, that reading this book made me realize that men are simple and do not want a fun-sucker as a girlfriend. Men want certain things from a woman, and I had fallen way short of being the ideal woman - a rules woman - who has self-respect and respect for her man. First things first - me: I started work on making myself the best I could be, inside and outside. I had neglected myself for two long! Once I had myself sorted out, I looked at my behavior and TLC towards my man - and found I had been neglectful there two! And this is where my feminist friends rolled their eyes and said I was giving him all my 'power'. Because I wanted to please my man in all ways possible, mentally, physically, emotionally etc I was labelled as a 'rules doormat girl'. I just shook my head and told them they hadn't even read the book so get lost! A rules girl has self-respect for herself and her man. It is not a crime or a sign of weakness to want to keep him sweet on you! Because ladies let me tell you - a little bit of sugar was all he needed to see me in a whole new light. And with my new look and new attitude - I was shocked to find OMG - I was... dare I say it... HAPPY!!!!! So if this book is so evil and corrupts young minds into making women slaves to male chauvinism - why has following its tips put a ring on my finger? Why do I now not feel like a doormat - whereas before I would call a man and lower myself to ask him "why haven't you called me?" So feminist bra-burners say what you will; at the end of the day I have a loving handsome man who wants to marry me, whom I love. And I love my bra's - as does my FIANCE!

After my 11 year marriage broke down I found myself back on the dating scene at 36 not knowing how to play. With my self-esteem a little bruised I was having a heck of a year and my dating experiences weren't helping! I was adopting all the 'modern' rules of dating and decided since they weren't working I'd check out this book in spite of what I'd heard about it being old-fashioned. Well ladies, not only did these principles help me marry someone who treats me like gold (four years on), as I started adopting these rules something more profound took place and I began to feel as valuable as I was forcing myself to act - I began to gently insist on respectful behaviour in all aspects of my life: work, social, family and finances. I am amazed to be telling you that ALL my relationships improved including the one with myself and my salaried doubled in 7 years time. I hope you too can persist in obeying the somewhat pedantic rules in this book until you can know what it's like to feel as valuable as these rules make you look when you adopt them. Good luck!

Read this now. Old fashioned and how it was but maybe then it was a better way

The things in this book are nothing new, however acting on this is just proving to be difficult these days. It teaches you self-control even if it's easier to just go with whatever you feel like which ultimately turns out to be the wrong thing to do. It steers you in the right direction, to practice enjoying time with yourself and showing your date that you're not holding out for them and that your life is fulfilled with or without them. This attracts the opposite sex. When you're a more rounded individual that has got more interests than just dating, you're happy with yourself and this attracts people to you. The journey starts with you and this book is an excellent start.