Disarming the Narcissist, Third Edition: Surviving and Thriving with the Self-Absorbed

A wonderfully readable book ! Being unfamiliar with the term Narcissist , other than realising that it had a likely connection to Narcissus in Greek mythology , Wikipedia came to the rescue with a short summary phrase which I have borrowed here : "Narcissism is the personality trait of egotism, vanity, conceit, or simple selfishness." If you know someone who is like this - many of us do - read this ! Great cover too - in the background the word "ME" is shown over and over again - so if you know someone whose favourite phrase is "What about Me ?" and whose favourite topic of converstaion is themself , this could be the book that will help you ! Coincidentally , "Mimi" ( Me Me ) was the nickname that we had applied to our Narcissist before we even knew the term or the book - no surprise that we found it appropriate !

What a helpful book in understanding the situation you are in and how to get out by yourself. This will not only help in dealing with the narcissist but every difficult situation. I can name numerousat work. Thanks for this guidance!

Interesting read but I don’t think all narcissis will take your new approach well and still play on your words and mind. Worth a read tho as it brings important areas to look with both yourselfs triggers etc. I think this could help me in other areas of my life.

Really a very good book

Useful for therapist because they learn how to treat basic narcissistic behavior disorder. unfortunately not many of the most pathologic narcisists go to therapy and this book is show a way too soft approach to help the victims to deal with the major problematic narcisists and, as such, it does not offer real guidance to the victims on how to recognise and avoid them. It is probably helpful to people who deal with mild narcisism.

Insight is a painful thing. This book is more about you than the person who is bothering you which of course is more useful. Useful for the lay person (with a bit of psychology knowledge) or the therapist. I got a lot from it. I found it a very warm book. Half way between a self-help book and a textbook.

A really useful Guide and support for anyone miserably caught in the mesh of a gaslight narcissist this book helps you unravel Your own feelings and begin to make healthy felt safety

This is a most helpful and insightful book. I recommend it , as a clinical psychologist, to people who are living or workng with others who seem to be so difficult and demanding that nothing works to change them or their unrelenting demands. Highly readable and validating. Dr. Helen Nightingale Www.cbt wellbeing.com

No lo recomiendo, para los que hemos vivido con personas narcisistas la empatía hacia ellos no funciona para nada. Lo mejor es no seguir siendo una fuente validación para ellos ósea hacer la técnica de la piedra gris, y no tener contacto, les recomiendo mejor este libro: The Narcissistic Family: Diagnosis and Treatment de Stephanie Donaldson-Pressman. Si están leyendo esto les deseo lo mejor en hacer una vida nueva, salgan de esa relación, toma tiempo pero es posible, disfruten cada batalla ganada.

Very interesting book as it explains the Narcisstic traits and highlights your own enabling schemas, once you face your own memories and conditioning, you will release your old memories and adapt new beliefs for yourself, you will realize that you and the N in your life share some schemas like subjugation and self esteem issues, that's one reason why you usually take the abuse and feel hurt...The book gives good techniques to use when facing the Narcisstic's abusive behavior, you mostly need to stay conscious and aware of the N's patterns and conditions (at the same time as yours) and react appropriately instead of reacting defensively (as you used to), you will be able to do that once you have developed compassion towards yourself and towards the N in your life. I get the impression that this is not an impossible mission but it may take long and hard work to get the Narcisstic to take responsibility for their actions and verbal abuse then correct them, you will get no where if you keep reacting defensively and hurt the N back, it is like hurting a child (because that is what they are inside) you need to almost learn to educate them once again using a loving and compassionate language. I am in a relationship with a N and am still in the exploration phase, I used to feel hurt and suffer so much, I am now at a phase where I feel detached from whatever the N says but it is still tough at times (when you don't expect it!), I am trying to learn to develop my communication skills, this is great effort. I find the exercise worthwhile because weither the relationship remains or not, I would have overcome my own issues and learnt how to face abusive behavior.

Timely delivery and item in great condition. Amazon had also bulked the order with another book that I'd ordered from another retailer to save delivery time/packaging. Thanks!

This book is very helpful to those who have to deal with narcissists in their lives. Wendy Behary not only explains how narcissism develops and how to detect narcissists, she also comes up with a really good working approach on how to deal with these people.I tested it myself on my former husband suffering from a full blown narcissistic personality disorder.Of course you have to do a lot work on yourself to really survive and thrive confronted with narcissism.Wendy Behary shows the way with compassion .

De todos los libros que me he leído, el mejor. Ofrece una perspectiva diferente, pero muy profesional y esperanzadora. Los consejos que ofrece creo que son utiles para nuestra vida en general y no solo para lidiar con una pareja o familiar narcisista. Es casi como un manual de mejora y perfeccionamiento en nuestras relaciones. Thanks Wendy!