Parenting Teens with Love and Logic: Preparing Adolescents for Responsible Adulthood

I just want to point out that this book is "Parenting TEENS with Love & Logic". The focus is on TEENS! After reading many reviews, I noticed that the negative ones are from people that state in nine million words or less that this is not a good system for 0-6 ages or not for younger children. Really, Mr. or Mrs. Obvious!? It is written with difficult TEENS in mind. If you have not yet dealt with these alien creatures, please do not criticize this book. Those of us, who have sought the help of psychiatrists and counselors, bless this author and the logical suggestions the book provides. In our case, we are dealing with a 15-year-old grandson we raised from an infant, and have gone (literally overnight) from being the beloved grandparents he could not live without to the 'evil enemies he must endure, because we are now too stupid to see that he knows everything'. The examples and concepts in this book take a while to internalize, if you are like us and were raised with parents who used the "old method" of parenting, which was literally, "Do it my way or die." By the way, the book points out that today's teens are way too savvy today for that system to work. Believe me that is an understatement. Reverse psychology does not work. They throw that in your face. Corporal punishment REALLY does not work. They have you arrested. (Been there, done that. The law is NOT on your side.) Anyhow, we were shell-shocked when this change occurred so suddenly and completely. We both walked around shaking our heads and lamenting "I just don't know what happened", so I bought this book hoping only for survival. I needed to read it twice and am still referring to it, because it requires an entirely new way of thinking and reacting. I say, "Thank God for this book." The information in it literally brought our household back to reasonably peaceful on a daily basis, and our teen has started to actually think about others rather than himself. A true miracle. Now this does not happen immediately when you close the back cover. It takes some real effort to change habits of a lifetime. Personally my first thought still is often 'It would feel so good to just kill him and be done with it', but now I am starting to think more in terms of understanding the 'personality flip' that teens do overnight, along with respecting our teen as an "adult in training", and offering the sane and logical suggestions that have gotten myself and my husband to our mid-60's fairly successfully. To my delight and surprise, our teen responds much more favorably to this method. Yes, he still carries out some of his really bad ideas anyhow. If we think he is going to do this, we advise him what might happen, and then give him enough rope to hang himself. We have even called the police to assist us when we could not find him. Because of this, he now knows we mean what we say. He now HEARS what we say, and we get more respect. We even get a few positive words from him at times... another miracle. Those of you who are raising lovely little grade school children take heed. It may not last. If you think you have raised them really well, watch out. We woke up one morning and did not know what hit us. If you find yourselves in a similar position, buy the book, read the book, practice the ideas in the book, and you too may let your teen live to reach adulthood.

I recently read Parenting Teens with Love and Logic, and I found it to be a valuable resource for navigating the complexities of raising teenagers. The book offers a thoughtful approach that combines empathy with practical strategies, aiming to foster responsibility and respect in teens. The Love and Logic method emphasizes the importance of setting clear boundaries while also allowing teens to make their own choices and learn from their consequences. It’s a balanced approach that encourages positive communication and problem-solving without resorting to heavy-handed discipline. One of the book’s strengths is its practical advice, which is grounded in real-world scenarios and easy to implement. The strategies are designed to help parents build a stronger relationship with their teens while guiding them towards more responsible behavior. Overall, Parenting Teens with Love and Logic is a worthwhile read for any parent looking for effective and compassionate ways to handle the challenges of raising adolescents. It provides a solid framework for creating a supportive and respectful family dynamic.

My ex and I divorced the weekend before my daughter started kindergarten and her counselor recommended the love and logic series to us then. I read the parenting with love and logic book one time and have read a few others since and utilized the parenting style I learned from the books. She is now entering her teen years. Although parenting isn't easy and I make mistakes like everyone else, my preteen (almost teen) and I have an amazing relationship and I owe it to the lessons I have learned thru this parenting style. I have 7 years of parenting with love and logic under my belt and am VERY happy with the results. And, as a daycare provider for 8 years I also used the book teaching with love and logic for my infants, toddlers, and preschoolers and saw amazing results with them as well. I also volunteer with a youth organization and use the love and logic concepts with the children I lead. I have even encouraged my fiancé to also adapt this parenting style with his own children over the past few years and I have seen dramatic results with their relationships too. We together, have read the love and logic book for lasting relationships as well and really enjoyed the concepts. So with experience, I recommend this series to parents with young children, preteens, and teens. I recommend this to teachers, caregivers, youth volunteers, single parents, blended families, and more. I can also say that even though I have used it in all aspects of my life, this style of parenting is something that I took bits and pieces from and adapted to. If you aren't willing to change, no self help book will work for you. I don't do everything that is recommended in these books, and I don't go crazy over love and logic everything. I have read each book only one time (and I haven't read them all) and what I have taken away from them and what I have utilized has worked for me.

We should have started reading this book, when our teen was 13,but it does not matter, you will learn so much about your teen, and yourself as a parent. I have raved about this book to my family and friends. We have learned what kind of parents we are, and what a teens thinking is, if you can believe that. This book taught us how to let go with love, and allow our teen to make his own decisions, understanding consequences, and results of their actions. Teaching them to become thinkers, and responsible adults. I know adults who are unable to make a menu choice, simple decisions, because they never made any decisions on their own and continued into adulthood needing a second opinion on everything. This book is on the money with great antidotes, and solutions. Thank you for this book.

I've long been a fan of Parenting with Love and Logic... I purchased this book for a friend who was struggling with how to deal with her 12 year old daughter who is delightful, but a typical, challenging teenager. Mom was frustrated with the increasingly frequent "battles" over the smallest things, and not liking the feeling of always being at odds with her daughter. I was hoping sharing Love & Logic would help encourage her and provide her with some effective tools. Well, she called tonight to say she is working her way through the book and has already put some of the ideas she's learned into practice - with good results. What she is learning has caused her to review and re-evalate her past power struggles with her daughter from a new vantage point and recognize why she was struggling. This book is helping her find ways to effectively diffuse and disengage from power struggles and start teaching her daughter to take responsibility (instead of always trying to make things Mom & Dad's "fault"). She is excited that she is starting to see a difference in such a short time - and now her husband and her mom are anxious to also read this book so they can all have the same approach. Love & Logic is practical, logical, easy to understand, and effective. Highly recommend this book and this parenting program to parents and grandparents of children and teens of all ages!

A colleague of mine told me about Love and Logic and, after watching a video, I bought this book. What I love about the information is that it's sensible and easy to follow. I began to use it with my own two teens and felt, for the first time in a long while, I was doing something right from a parenting perspective. I'm also a therapist and work with parents of teens engaging in high risk behaviors. This is a book I would absolutely recommend to them as well. The book literally tells you how to address your teen to avoid power struggles, ie fights. My house has been much more peaceful since reading this book. If you have a teen and your parenting style tends to be permissive or authoritarian, this is a great resource for moving more to the middle to help your teen learn personal responsibility and to be able to stand on his or her own two feet as an adult.

Not all kids are the same and not even all your kids in your household will respond the same way to your parenting. This was a great reminder to not stress over the small stuff. And to use "love and logic" to parent those kids who are especially wanting to push boundaries. It covers all the topics you can think of. I first just checked it out from my local library but when it was time to return it I realized I still needed it for reference. It is a great book to highlight and tab pages to go back when you need it. Highly recommend!

Wish I'd had this when I started raising my kids...the one for children, anyway. This one has been a life saver, really helped us turn things around in a non-threatening, calm atmosphere. Took all the emotionally charged situations and reduced them to logical, make-sense discussions which enable the kids to do the thinking. I've mentioned it to friends who have grown kids and they say that THEY used it for their families & said it was a HUGE help!! Updated, make-sense, no-nonsense advise. You don't need to take weeks to read and study this, it's a quick read. The good thing about that is that my husband was willing to read it because it's not a bunch of phycho-babble or make-you-queezy gooshy talk about child-rearing. This is definitely a logical approach that will help the reader put their kids on the right path by putting parents on the right path first. 100% recommend.

Simple language. Easy to read.

Super helpful and practical... It helps me to love and care in a right way of my daughters! Looking forward to read the first one book

Dieses Buch ist ein absolutes must f[r alle Eltern. Kann man nur weiter empfehlen. Perfekter Ratgeber . Kann jeder Familie helfen.

Get this book! So helpful and easy to read. There are Youtube videos too!

a little out dated.