Daily Wisdom for Why Does He Do That?: Encouragement for Women Involved with Angry and Controlling Men

Essential reading if you even think you might be being abused, taken advantage of, or your life as part of a couple is a daily struggle that's ruining your self esteem and enjoyment of life. If knowledge is power, you will be empowered to do what you need to do after reading this book. Bancroft is not an armchair self help guru - he has worked with thousands of abused women and abusers. He's heard it all, and is fooled by nothing! He plainly respects women, and the difficulties women face in abusive relationships. He may well not help you solve the issues, you can't if your partner believes he's entitled to treat you as an inferior, but you WILL feel empowered to create a better life for yourself - and to get away, if that's what you need to do. I've read a lot, having been in an abusive relationship with a war veteran for 16 years, and this book is by far the best. I am now husband free, without guilt or remorse, and freely getting on with my life, and getting my self esteem and energy back.

This is a tremendously useful tool for both women and men in troubling relationships. I would recommend that the person in question also read Lundy Bancroft's book entitled Why Does He Do That? first, in order to understand the complex dynamics and cycles of emotional and verbal abuse. The book can assist those at the beginning of their healing journey or those who have left a relationship and still need daily encouragement to keep persisting in their healing.

As someone with a masters in marriage and family therapy, one might think I won't mess up in choosing relationships. Nothing could be further from the truth, for me and for the multiple thousands of counseling professionals out there. In the couple days in between a violently angry explosion from my fiancee and our meeting to discuss it, I read this book. It literally saved me. The blunt, yet compassionate way he essentially says "hope at your own risk" was exactly the sobering truth I needed to hear. Friends, also therapists, tried to tell me. It was this book that actually got through to me. I feel like an emotional cataract has been lifted from my heart. I'm deeply grateful for the profound paradigm shift this book created in me and have purchased it for others. I only wish the judicial, social services, and public protection (police) systems could "get it" . Unfortunately, these systems attract this kind of man in an alarming number. Not all, but the terrorizing, bullying, and unrestricted authoritative possibilities offered to (especially) judges and cops, but also many politicians, educators and business leaders prove seductive for this type man. Look around you. For that matter, look at the "men" supposedly representing nations, most especially our own. So at every level - from love partners to global patriarchal societies this looms large.

My sister had to leave her abusive husband suddenly last year. She showed up on my doorstep at 1:30a carrying her 17yo dog with only the stuff she was able to grab after her abuser finally fell asleep. The protection order came through two days later. Unfortunately, the whole divorce process has lasted more than a year. She really struggled those first few weeks and months. She questioned whether it was really that bad (it was) and whether she was making a big deal out of nothing (she wasn’t). I worked for a domestic violence center doing intake for shelter several years ago and had read “Why Does He Do That” as part of my training. I ordered both the original and this workbook for her. On those days where she found herself questioning whether or not he was really abusive, I had her read a chapter. Every time she’d come back after reading saying she made the right choice in leaving. If you (or a loved one) find yourself wondering whether or not what your partner is doing to you is abuse, you should get this book and the original. No one should have to live with the constant threat of violence over their heads. And yes, it IS violence even if they’re not actively hitting you. Emotional, verbal, and mental abuse is frequently more damaging than physical. Everyone deserves to feel safe and loved in their romantic relationships <3

This book saved me during my divorce. It has been a lifeline and even over a year later I still read it frequently. I can’t express enough how helpful I found this book to be. Highly recommend.

So sad to be married to a man so evil....and selfish. Tough news to swallow that there really are more men like this... I am not alone.

This book literally has saved my life in so many ways. All the stuff my partner was doing that didn't make sense to me or that I called him on and he made it seem as if I was missing the mark when I told him that his behavior, treatment of me and communication style was very disrespectful towards me was addressed so thoughtfully in this book by Lundy Bancroft. Bancroft provides amazingly candid information all throughout that helps you really critically (and fairly) assess your relationship for what it is and isn't. His writing style isn't demeaning towards its audience and is extremely helpful. I liked it so much I added the Audible feature to it and have read it more than once taking notes and highlighting sections of it. Trust me, you will not be disappointed if you want answers and even if you don't, you'll be a changed person because the truth has a way of prevailing which comes in handy when you are ready for a change.

No matter which book of Lundy Bancroft's you choose it will help you believe in yourself again. This Daily Wisdom doles out his expertise & knowledge in small digestible bites. If you can stomach the hard-hitting version of: Why Does He Do That? I'd suggest that first, but this Daily Wisdom is just that!

Very useful and friendly support for women suffering from verbal abuse by their partner. Helps to break free, gives hope and empowermentl and a realistic view, what in fact happens.

It was a used book when I ordered it. But good enough condition for the price. And will pass it on after I have read it. A great read and clever man . On the button advice wise without overly complicating it xx

Interesting book

A mettre entre toutes les mains des femmes victimes de violences conjugales et qui cherchent à s’en sortir. Un guide qui renforce leur pouvoir, jour après jour.

This is a fantastic book to read after "why does he do that" amazing book.. such great advice especially if you have children.