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title: "Outgrowing the Pain: A Book for and About Adults Abused As Children"
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# Outgrowing the Pain: A Book for and About Adults Abused As Children

**Brand:** eliana gil
**Price:** R539
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- **What is this?** Outgrowing the Pain: A Book for and About Adults Abused As Children by eliana gil
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Outgrowing the Pain: A Book for and About Adults Abused As Children

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## Customer Reviews

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    Dedicated to all the survivors of child abuse.
  

*by H***R on Reviewed in the United States on March 26, 2014*

Read this book in one sitting.  When I first opened it, and observed all the pictures in it, I thought to myself "this is a book for children". Not so.  This is for all survivor's of child abuse.  And, all types of child abuse.  The author deals with verbal, physical, and sexual abuse, and only stresses reading this book as an adjunct to professional help.We raise our children with self-esteem, I believe, because the world knocks us all around enough.  Some children were raised believing, because of the verbal and physical (and/or sexual) assaults by their parents that they are not literally fit to walk the face of the earth.  The author brings out the long-range ramifications of this abuse; detached semi-permanent relationships, marrying, literally an abuser not unlike one's parents, alcohol and drug abuse to ease the pain, and the list goes on and on.  She describes the defensiveness and the "building walls" of those who were abused and how to break down those walls on the road to wholeness.There are many good survival tips in this book.  I do stress, that it should be used in conjunction with professional help.  Words hurt, straps and belts hurt, and could leave scars for a lifetime which can manifest themselves in anger, misplaced rage, and a host of other maladaptive behaviors.The one thing, I think the author failed to mention is after taking (or during) these initial steps to recover from abuse, pastoral care with an eye towards forgiveness is also helpful.  Most clergy are trained these days in counseling people who are survivors of abuse.  Forgiveness is the ultimate tribute not to your abuser, but towards yourself in putting the past behind you and moving forward.  All in all, this is a highly recommended book.

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    Simple,  direct little book.
  

*by M***A on Reviewed in the United States on March 25, 2017*

Interesting little book.  Written very much like a self help manual,  however much of the help is to identify and understand what might be happening in the wake of abuse. I've referred it to a couple of patients.  I think most appropriate for younger folKS 16 to 25ish, due to the presentation, but I like the content as well.  Might be helpful for family members, but I get the feeling with the direct nature of this,  that there might not be enough for the uninjured family member to get a hold of.

### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ 







  
  
    Easy read!
  

*by D***Z on Reviewed in the United States on November 23, 2022*

This book is an easy read, but "thorough" in HELP dealing with childhood abuse as a full fledge adult!

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