---
product_id: 107141083
title: "The Soul of Discipline: The Simplicity Parenting Approach to Warm, Firm, and Calm Guidance- From Toddlers to Teens Hardcover – June 2, 2015"
brand: "kim john payne"
price: "R564"
currency: ZAR
in_stock: true
reviews_count: 8
category: "Books"
url: https://www.desertcart.co.za/products/107141083-the-soul-of-discipline-the-simplicity-parenting-approach-to-warm
store_origin: ZA
region: South Africa
---

# The Soul of Discipline: The Simplicity Parenting Approach to Warm, Firm, and Calm Guidance- From Toddlers to Teens Hardcover – June 2, 2015

**Brand:** kim john payne
**Price:** R564
**Availability:** ✅ In Stock

## Quick Answers

- **What is this?** The Soul of Discipline: The Simplicity Parenting Approach to Warm, Firm, and Calm Guidance- From Toddlers to Teens Hardcover – June 2, 2015 by kim john payne
- **How much does it cost?** R564 with free shipping
- **Is it available?** Yes, in stock and ready to ship
- **Where can I buy it?** [www.desertcart.co.za](https://www.desertcart.co.za/products/107141083-the-soul-of-discipline-the-simplicity-parenting-approach-to-warm)

## Best For

- kim john payne enthusiasts

## Why This Product

- Trusted kim john payne brand quality
- Free international shipping included
- Worldwide delivery with tracking
- 15-day hassle-free returns

## Description

Review
        	
        	
        		
        		
	        		
						
			        		Advance praise for The Soul of Discipline &#xA0; &#x201C;The Soul of Discipline offers practical tools for helping parents implement discipline that&#x2019;s respectful and effective, but the book is so much more. Kim John Payne offers a framework to guide parents in making decisions about why, when, and how to hold tighter reins as we build skills in our children, and why, when, and how to loosen the reins as we scaffold freedom.&#x201D;&#x2014;Tina Payne Bryson, Ph.D., co-author of No-Drama Discipline &#xA0; &#x201C;This book gets deep inside the challenge of getting along with children and teens and thinks deeply about what they need from us to become strong and self-managing. It elevates discipline to what it should be&#x2014;a caring process of helping kids orient to the world and live in it happily and well.&#x201D;&#x2014;Steve Biddulph, author of The New Manhood &#xA0; &#x201C;Kim Payne provides a useful model for choosing our parenting stance&#x2014;Governor, Gardener, or Guide&#x2014;depending on the situation. Most powerfully, Payne begins with the radical view that children are not disobedient but rather disoriented. The upshot of this shift in perspective is that discipline is about helping children orient themselves effectively, not about controlling or chastising.&#x201D;&#x2014;Lawrence J. Cohen, Ph.D., author of Playful Parenting &#xA0; &#x201C;The Soul of Discipline draws on Kim John Payne&#x2019;s years of gifted school and family counseling to show us with its clear and simple tone how to discipline without becoming our children&#x2019;s enemy. It is filled with memorable stories, dialogues that will engage your imagination, and great strategies. By the book&#x2019;s end, a new picture of parenting will live in you, one that will honor the soul of your children as you provide the structure, training, and guidance they need at each stage of their development.&#x201D;&#x2014;Dee Joy Coulter, Ed.D., author of Original Mind
						    	
					    	
						
						Read more
					
	        	
        	
        
        	
        		About the Author
        	
        	
        		
        		
	        		
						
			        		A consultant and trainer to 250 U.S. independent and public schools and school districts, Kim John Payne, M.Ed., has been a school and family counselor for more than thirty years. He has also consulted for clinics, training centers, and educational associations in South Africa, Hungary, Israel, Russia, Ireland, Switzerland, Germany, Australia, the United Kingdom, and Canada. He has served as the project director of the Collaborative Counseling Program at Antioch University and the co-director of an extensive research program on a drug-free approach to attention-priority issues. He is the director of the Simplicity Parenting Project and the Center for Social Sustainability and has worked extensively with the American and U.K. Waldorf movements. The author of Games Children Play, Simplicity Parenting, and Beyond Winning, he lives with his wife and two children in Northampton, Massachusetts.
						    	
					    	
						
						Read more
					
	        	
        	
        
                
        
        
            
            
            See all Editorial Reviews

## Images

![The Soul of Discipline: The Simplicity Parenting Approach to Warm, Firm, and Calm Guidance- From Toddlers to Teens Hardcover – June 2, 2015 - Image 1](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/41nD73Vh2SL.jpg)
![The Soul of Discipline: The Simplicity Parenting Approach to Warm, Firm, and Calm Guidance- From Toddlers to Teens Hardcover – June 2, 2015 - Image 2](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/51gOuQPutSL.jpg)
![The Soul of Discipline: The Simplicity Parenting Approach to Warm, Firm, and Calm Guidance- From Toddlers to Teens Hardcover – June 2, 2015 - Image 3](https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/31juHyx9ePL.jpg)

## Customer Reviews

### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Best parenting book I've read
*by C***8 on May 12, 2016*

I have read countless books on discipline and parenting, including Love and Logic; Adventures in Gentle Discipline; How to Talk so Kids Will Listen...; Siblings without Rivalry; Free-Range Parenting; Heaven on Earth; Punished by Rewards; It's ok not to Share; and Payne's own Simplicity Parenting.  The Soul of Discipline surpasses all of these, and I only wish that it had been available 5 years ago when we began parenting!  The developmental phases and "needs" presented make perfect sense.  I have trialed just a few of the ideas that Payne shares and have already seen improvements in my relationship with my impetuous 5 year old.  Some of the ideas are uncomfortable to read about, as I have been steeped in the parenting philosophy that says to be as inclusive as possible with your children.  I read through the tween and teen sections, too, though, and am encouraged to see how that "ideal" of inclusiveness will become our reality as the children get older.  I am so glad that I read this book, and highly recommend it to anyone who interacts with children.  I only wish Payne had included more examples/scenarios, as I find those very helpful--but he did include enough to get us started.

### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ I lean on this book when I feel confused or ...
*by C***N on June 12, 2017*

I lean on this book when I feel confused or that I am looking for an answer. Kim John Payne has helped guide our family through many phases and stages, always helping the parent to remember to get to the source of the child's issue. No disobedient kids, just disoriented. Changed our parenting for sure.

### ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ Liked the position the book takes
*by A***R on July 1, 2017*

Say it may be vague or without ground, but I see and identify with the middle  ground taken by the author in parenting. I have read books that go the strict side and the loose side, and found that both had links missing in making sense of the parenting methods proposed in those books. This book bridged and explained the pros and cons these popular parenting methods possess and bring up one which draws in the good of both sides for reference.

---

## Why Shop on Desertcart?

- 🛒 **Trusted by 1.3+ Million Shoppers** — Serving international shoppers since 2016
- 🌍 **Shop Globally** — Access 737+ million products across 21 categories
- 💰 **No Hidden Fees** — All customs, duties, and taxes included in the price
- 🔄 **15-Day Free Returns** — Hassle-free returns (30 days for PRO members)
- 🔒 **Secure Payments** — Trusted payment options with buyer protection
- ⭐ **TrustPilot Rated 4.5/5** — Based on 8,000+ happy customer reviews

**Shop now:** [https://www.desertcart.co.za/products/107141083-the-soul-of-discipline-the-simplicity-parenting-approach-to-warm](https://www.desertcart.co.za/products/107141083-the-soul-of-discipline-the-simplicity-parenting-approach-to-warm)

---

*Product available on Desertcart South Africa*
*Store origin: ZA*
*Last updated: 2026-02-24*